Rewards & Punishments

As adults, we spend a lot of time trying to think of ways in which we can handle or control a situation or a child. Often, we resort to tricks and techniques, little exercises that involve rewards and punishments. It's hard not to go down that path. It feels so easy and natural. Our society seems to be predicated on this model. It exists in schools and sports. Music too. So many systems employ these procedures: if you do x you will get y. Yet, there must be another way, a way that makes it less about us and more about the child. A system where motiviation is internal, not based on external prompts.

In her 1913 Rome Lectures, Maria Montessori points the way: "Serving children in a way that robs them of their independence has been shown to be a kind of seduction which almost imperceptibly leads away from the true paths of life - and for this very reason it can be seen as the first fundamental injury to freedom. In society we find something less subtle, something brutal, which also acts in the same way. It is the outward sign of a kind of slavery, namely, prizes and punishments, which our schools employ to lead children to do what we think is best for them."

Montessori takes rewards and punishments very seriously. She even calls them an assault on our freedom. Why? Well, because it shifts the focus. It imprisons us, she says. Instead of engaging in an activity because you are interested in learning about it, you are now pursuing the work because you were instructed to or because you were conditioned to anticipate the judgement of praise when you finish the task. It no longer becomes a passion, it becomes a chore. Imagine, instead, that you engage in and accomplish a task because it's something you love. What a different world....

Spotlight Sheryl Morris

In our first Spotlight of the new year school year, we're very pleased to introduce you to Sheryl Morris. When we first read her story, we were instantly struck by at least two very interesting, productive lines: 1. Her defiance of the categorization, “If you can you do, if you can’t you teach.” We strongly believe that we need to actively work to overcome this profound misconception about teachers. 2.  As with so many others, her comment that, “I wish that’s how school had been for me,” resonated so deeply with us. We also think many of our readers will sympathize and identify with Sheryl's insights and subsequent path. We hope you enjoy!


Q: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself? Your background, your interests, your dreams? 

A: If my family had chosen home schooling for me it would not have worked well. At three and four years old I wanted, badly, to follow my older sisters to school to see what the world had to offer me. In 1954 I walked to a new neighborhood school surely planned on some inspirations of Maria Montessori. The coat hooks were low on the wall, the tables and chairs were all child-sized, and the bathroom facilities were all scaled down. I was thrilled, but that is where any likeness to Montessori stopped. I acclimated to the routine: waiting in lines, sitting in rows, working for smiles and good marks, freezing in place when orders were given and discipline enacted.

It wasn’t until years later I learned about Maria Montessori in education, college courses. As do many others, upon first learning about Montessori methods, I thought, “I wish that’s how school had been for me.”

Flash forward even more years and I’m taking advantage of an opportunity to study for a Montessori teacher’s certificate. What happened in the time all between? I had successes, I made mistakes. The biggest mistake was listening to the bad advice, “If you can you do, if you can’t you teach.” My background includes university classes: French, graphic design, photography, theology, business; and office, computer work: clerical and production, in small towns and the big city (Chicago). On a long quest to “find my passion,” I took wrong turns and eventually began to lament that I’d not done much that was worthwhile. I’d not made any significant contributions or given much back. So, back to the part where I’m studying for Montessori certification (ages 3-6). I found it curious that preparation for the teacher ran so contrary to the preparation for the child; instruction was intense and comprehensive; and then there was the testing. Oddly, I craved more and appreciated Montessori as “Transformative Learning.”

My other successes – they include marriage to a true friend and our cherished son; and now, we have a daughter-in-law and two wonderful grandchildren!

Q: Now that the hardest question is out of the way: What's your favorite color? 

A:  I have a favorite color combination – red and green together in all variations.



Q: Do you have a favorite book? How about a film?

A: Deciding on favorites is difficult for me. I enjoy books and films that shed light on history and the human condition; one example would be, The Brothers Karamazov. Related to education, my favorite book is Nurturing the Spirit by Aline D. Wolf in part because of the full bibliography and recommended reading list.

One favorite film is Life is Beautiful. This is the story in which a father along with his young son are taken prisoner at the end of World War II. As unlikely as it might seem and given the most probable outcome, he is able to protect his son from the adult world and its assault on body, mind, and spirit by turning it all into a game. In the end the boy is saved.

Q: When you close your eyes late at night, and imagine waking up and starting a new adventure: what is that adventure?

A: New adventures that capture my imagination involve: 1) More Montessori teacher training! in French this time! 2) Overseeing the design and installations of super-sized Montessori “works” to draw new interest and curiosity at museums, malls, airports, etc. Find my and maybe your inspiration at Rossodigrana.

Q: Can you tell us about your hobbies? 

A: My hobbies include reading, hiking, crafting, gardening, yoga, and movies.


Q: Switching things up a bit, can you tell us more about your new book? 

A:  SNAP–Scaffolding for Numerical Synapses: Awakening Curiosity in the Numbers One to Ten is a platform from which adults can nurture their youngest children’s sense of wonder. It began as a year-long project for Early Childhood Teacher Certification awarded by the AMS. While studying Montessori methods, and environments, I was also reading Michael S. Schneider’s book, A Beginner’s Guide to Constructing the Universe: The Mathematical Archetypes of Nature, Art, and Science: A Voyage From 1 To 10. The harmony of the two excited me and led me to share what I had learned. Surely, other Montessorians will pick-up on the dovetailing aspects if they want to discover and use some new ways to scaffold what their children are learning.

My wish is to have SNAP easily integrated into any home, classroom or childcare environment and at the same time to bring attention to Montessori.
One review of SNAP called it, “deceptively simple.” We need to be careful not to let simplicity escape us! So I’m thrilled if I can acquaint others with ways to spark young children’s interest in numbers and at the same time enhance a teacher’s effectiveness and help her comfortably achieve daily, monthly, and yearly classroom objectives.

Rather than only looking at the numbers 1-10 in the linear fashion, as we ordinarily do, SNAP is an invitation to observe various expressions of each number, individually, across all subject areas, using all of our senses. It is yet another way to support children as they practice careful discrimination, organize thought, and retrieve information in unique ways.

Q: How have things changed since you first got started in the field of education? 

A: Things have changed dramatically since I first got started in the field of education. Whole courses are available online! Computers have made it easy for parents, teachers, and school administrators to share information; many parents love getting pictures of their child’s school day and digital cameras make this simple. For teachers and parents who are able to find the time, social networking is a boon to staying aware of what is new – from projects with kids to the accomplishments of various organizations that advance programs of interest. Answers to questions can easily be found online, “Where is the nearest Reggio Emilia school?” Issues are discussed online, “What is the difference between Montessori and Waldorf?”

Q: What's your favorite education related quote?

A: A few favorite education related quotes are:

1) “Aesthetic and moral education are also closely connected with the training of the senses. By multiplying sense experiences and developing the ability to evaluate the smallest differences in various stimuli, one’s sensibilities are refined and one’s pleasures increased. Beauty is found in harmony, not in discord; and harmony implies affinities, but these require a refinement of the senses if they are to be perceived. The beautiful harmonies of nature and of art escape those whose senses are dull. The world is then cramped and cruel. Our surroundings provide us with inexhaustible sources of aesthetic pleasure, but men can still move about in the world as if they had no senses or were like brute beasts looking for pleasure in strong and sharp sensations since these are the only ones accessible to them. Crude pleasures are often the source of vicious habits. Strong stimuli do not, as a matter of fact, sharpen but rather dull the senses, which as a consequence need ever stronger stimuli.” - Maria Montessori

2) “We see no limit to what should be offered to the child, for his will be an immense field of chosen activity.” - Maria Montessori

3) “The child is both a hope and a promise for mankind.” - Maria Montessori 

Q: What continues to inspire you about education?

A: I continue to be inspired about education by people. People are actively participating and discussing: nationwide, within states, cities, and individual school districts. Parents are taking classes to learn more about their children, educators are sharing their insights and knowledge with families and communities at large. Speakers, writers, video and film makers, and researchers are adding to knowledge and making it readily available.

The premise that there are still monumental revelations to be made inspires me:

- “The universe is full of magical things, patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.” -Eden Phillpotts

- “Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.” -Dr. Carl Sagan

- “Wonderful things for the future may lie waiting for explosions in the inner life, which is hidden from us.” - Maria Montessori 

Q: Lastly, in what ways do you envision the future of education?  

A: I envision the future of education to have greater understanding of what holistic education means and how results can be successfully achieved in any country and within any racial, social, cultural, or economic group. There will be strong bridges between all Montessorians and other holistic methods; a sound balance with regard to the use of technology; no settling for second or third best, no waiting lists, but an authentic Montessori school for every family that wants their children to attend.



This is why we do what we do.


Our friends at the Cobb School in Simsbury, Conneticut, started school today. It marks the beginning of their 40th year. Looking at this original picture is not only nostalgic, it's hopeful - full of so much compassion and promise. You can literally see the excitement and passion in everyone's eyes. This is why we do what we do. Needless to say, that same look still adorns those who teach at Cobb, and those students who are lucky enough to attend. Forty years is a remarkable feat. Congratulations!

The Building Blocks of Life

Over the summer, we sat down to put together our thoughts on what education means to us: the values, principles and dreams that we hope to embody and impart. We started to call them the "building blocks of life."

Essentially, we wanted to share some of the many lessons that we have learned along the way and relay these capstones to a much wider audience. These are principles to which we aspire, foundations that we desire to lay, and inspiration that we always try to carry in our back pockets.

As with everything, we believe in the best. The best teachers. The best education. The best materials. That's why we teamed up with Dave and Cassie Medema of Funky Fresh Supply Co. They are the best at what they do.

Not only do they share the same vision for education, they also have a unique ability to capture tough concepts with their original and insightful designs. Together, we created a series of our favorite "building blocks" and put them in poster format. We hope you enjoy!

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Raising a Child of Possibility

We are so pleased to showcase this very special TedX Video, Raising a Child of Possibility, with Hugh Weber and his beautiful daughter Emerson.

We encourage you to take a few minutes to watch it. We think you'll be inspired. Who knows? You might even look to rediscover your own sense of wonder and joy.

As a parent of a student at Baan Dek, we were just thrilled to see Hugh on stage. He demonstrated the Montessori spirit, with such charmisma and insight, while still managing to navigate his own terrain.

We couldn't be more proud.

Well, to be fair, what impressed us the most was to see Emerson's courageous stage debut. She's only four. TedX Fargo billed her "as one of the youngest TedX presenters ever". Did you see her greet the crowd? "Hello, Fargo!" she exclaims.

We have no doubt that soon the entire world will hear Emerson's voice, on a stage of her own creation. Way to go Webers! We want nothing more than to keep following you!